Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Signs of Abuse in a Relationship

Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is mental or psychological, rather than physical. Many times emotional abuse is minimized but can leave long lasting scars on its victims.

There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most telling sign is fear of your partner. If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner and you are constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a confrontation—chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. Controlling and belitteling behavior are two main signs of an abusive relationship.

Some cues that might indicate an abusive relationship are:

  1. You feel afraid to break up with them.
  2. You feel tied down, feel like you have to check-in.
  3. You feel afraid to make decisions or bring up certain subjects so that the other person won’t get mad.
  4. You tell yourself that if you just try harder and love your partner enough that everything will be just fine.
  5. You find yourself crying a lot, being depressed or unhappy.
  6. You find yourself worrying and obsessing about how to please your partner and keep them happy.
  7. You find the physical or emotional abuse getting worse over time.

If you suspect that someone you know is being abused, speak up! If you’re hesitating—telling yourself that it’s none of your business, you might be wrong, keep in mind that expressing your concern will let the person know that you care and may even save his or her life.

If you are in an abusive relationship and need help or someone to talk to, you can join this forum on facebook:

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